It seems the biggest concern my students deal with is their presumption of being too ugly to attract women. There are various sizes and shapes of insecurity, such as: Some men think they are too old. Some think they're too fat. Some men think they are too short. Some think they're too ugly.

These men feel as if they are in a weak position, when it comes to attracting the women they desire, because of these. But lucky for all of us - this simply isn't the case. Here we can dismiss a few myths concerning attraction, which may be holding you back from a successful love life. Myth #1 - You must be good looking to attract women. Take a good look around and take not of the different types of men who date attractive women, and you can see this is not true. Of course it is essential to look good, however, it you do not have to be good looking.

How is there a difference? Well, you can't help if you're good looking or not. But you have COMPLETE control over how you present yourself. You control the type of clothes you wear, how you groom yourself, how you wear your hair, how you smell, etc. Presentations of these types of features play a role in looking good.

Taking control of your appearance makes any man more attractive. Myth #2 - Women Think Like Men Do It's natural to assume that everyone else in the world sees things the same way you see them. Take for example; you have a zit on your nose that feels so big that you are sure everyone notices it there. However, in reality the pimple is under your skin and not viewable to everyone else in the world. To you, it was clear as day. To everyone else, it was hardly noticeable.

Naturally, we practice this attitude while summing others up. Do you judge a woman by the way she looks? Of course you do, since you are able to determine by visually appraising her whether you think she is attractive. You naturally assume that women size you up in the same manner. WRONG.

Women have a different set of standards when determining their attraction than men have. This does not mean they have no care as to the attractiveness of a man; they just do not use physical characteristics as a means of judgment as men do. A womans attraction bases itself around how a man makes them feel, rather than how a man might look. This is why social status and confidence attract women.

Men who make them laugh, they find attractive. Being good at what you do attracts women. Try to understand how this works. For women, looks have very little to do with all of this.

Myth #3 - Women Notice A Man's Uncertainty And Insecurity Understand that we know ourselves better than anyone else ever will. We are able to pick out every single flaw there is about ourselves - our big ears, big nose, weak chin, receding hairline. We notice these small flaws, no matter what they may be. And because we see it, we assume everyone else does too. But the fact is, most people aren't very observant, and unless they specifically look for something to criticize you about, they're not going to care about your insecurities, whatever they may be.

A lot of guys try and dismiss their insecurities by calling attention to it, as if to try and "diffuse" whatever it is they feel is ugly about them. But all this does is draw the woman's attention to this insecurity, and only at that point do people notice it. And insecurity is always unattractive. In order for your positive qualities to outshine those that you find negative, you must always face every situation with a focus on your good qualities rather than any insecurity. Myth #4 - Attractive Men Have It Easy That women instinctively generate towards good looking men is one of the most misleading myths out there.

Good looking guys have their own struggles with women. Sure, being physically attractive helps them initially, but in the long run, they have teh same issues other men have. Attraction is about amping up the emotion that a woman feels when she's around you, and linking it to you in such a way where they only way she can get those feelings back is to be around you.

If a man matches a woman's physical type, she'll gravitate to him because those features make her feel good. But if the guy is boring, or a jerk, or just not compatible, those feelings will go away. However, if you take a guy that the woman maybe isn't initially physically attracted to, and then have him make her experience feelings of fun, excitement, and pleasure - she WILL become attracted to him eventually. This is the fundamental concept of attraction - when you make other people feel good, they will want to be around you. You need to learn how to interact with women, since you do not have to be a good looking man to make women feel good.

This equation has a second factor and that is of sexual attraction. This is the ability to turn a woman on, as well as making her feel good while you are around them. This is where the aspect of seduction comes into play.

As you lead a woman towards sexual attraction, she begins seeing you in a new perspective, despite your shortcomings or looks.

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